2005-07-29
She wants a fourth?!
So, I read Cheated Wife’s most recent post (her diary is locked but well worth getting a password if you have not all ready done so) and felt like it appropriate to what I am starting to feel at home. In part of her post CW says that after her first child, she got all kinds of pressure to have a second, though she was happy with one and did not feel like she needed to go out and have another child just so she could one of each sex to make everyone else happy.
My wife and I have three boys. The youngest is only 10 months old. Everywhere we go people ask us if we are going to “try for a girl”. What is up with that?! How about mixing in a “My, don’t you have three handsome sons!” Or a “Goodness, your boys are well behaved!”. I just don’t get it. Is it not possible to be perfectly happy with your children all being of the same sex? Maybe I am biased since I do have three boys, maybe my wife really needs to have a girl with pink stuff all over the place to be happy. I am just happy we have three normal, happy kids.
The problem is that my wife is starting to get that look in her eye and make comments about wanting another one. I always said I wanted two or three kids and she has always said that she wanted three or four. Sounds to me like three is the happy number. As far as I am concerned, it is time for me to visit the urologist and get the little baby makers all snipped up. Sex is currently abhorrent to my wife, but she is starting to want another one. The last pregnancy was pretty hard for her and while she was pregnant, she kept saying how crappy it was and that she thought she was done. I am not sure that I want to go through her being pregnant again and call me selfish, but as the sole breadwinner in the family, I am not sure that I want to add another education fund to my family budget. The oldest two kids are starting a private preschool this year that if we continue to send our kids there for grade school would run us about $10k a year per kid. I love the school, but I don’t even know how we are going to manage three kids there in a few years, let alone four. My wife likes to talk about the sacrifice of sending them there, but I am not sure she really appreciates what it is going to do to our budget. It will cost more to educate our three children each year than we will spend on our mortgage!
I guess I might get a little lovin’ out of the deal if we were to try for a fourth, but right now, to me, it is not worth it.
-- rockabillie at 1:27 p.m.